Seeking Help

Talking to an adult about your mental health can be challenging, but it's an essential step toward getting the support you need. Here's some advice to help you navigate this conversation:

Who Do I Talk To?

Mental Health Professionals: If you’re comfortable, reach out to a mental health professional like a therapist, counselor, or psychiatrist. They are trained to provide guidance and support.

School Counselors: School counselors are there to help with academic and personal issues. They can connect you with resources and offer a safe space to talk.

Teachers: Trusted teachers can provide support or direct you to school counselors or other resources.

Parents or Guardians: If you have a close relationship with your parents or guardians, consider talking to them. Be honest about your feelings and experiences.

What Do I Say?

Plan Ahead: Think about what you want to say and how you can express your feelings and concerns clearly. Jot down key points if it helps.
Pick the Right Time and Place: Find a quiet, private, and comfortable space where you can talk without distractions or interruptions.
Use “I” Statements: When sharing your feelings, use “I” statements to express how you feel and what you need. For example, say, “I’ve been feeling really overwhelmed lately, and I think I need some help.”
Be Honest and Open: Share your thoughts, emotions, and experiences honestly. Authenticity can help the adult understand your situation better.
Expect Different Reactions: Adults may react in various ways to discussions about mental health. Some may be understanding and supportive, while others may need time to process the information.
Educate Them: Sometimes adults may not fully grasp mental health issues. Be prepared to provide some information or resources that can help them understand better.
Be Patient: Understand that it might take time for the adult to fully comprehend your situation and offer support. Be patient and give them space to respond.
Ask for What You Need: Clearly communicate what kind of support you’re seeking. Whether it’s just someone to talk to, professional help, or specific accommodations, let them know.
Listen Actively: After sharing your concerns, give the adult a chance to respond. They may have questions or suggestions.
Consider Writing a Letter: If you find it too difficult to talk in person, consider writing a letter to express your feelings. It can be a less intimidating way to start the conversation.
Seek Professional Help if Needed: If you believe you need professional assistance, share this with the adult. They can help you access the necessary resources and support.
Know That You’re Not Alone: Remember that many teens face similar challenges, and seeking help is a sign of strength. You’re not alone, and there are people who care about your well-being.
Follow Up: Continue to communicate with the adult about your mental health. Regular check-ins can help you feel supported and ensure your needs are met.
Seek Other Support: If the adult’s response is not helpful, consider reaching out to another trusted adult or a mental health professional for assistance.

Remember that discussing your mental health is a courageous step toward improving your well-being. You deserve to feel heard and supported, and there are people and resources available to help you on your journey.

What Other Resources Are Out There?

In addition to talking to a trusted adult or a mental health professional, there are great online resources and apps that you might find helpful.

Websites like TeenMentalHealth.org, The Trevor Project, and HelpGuide.org are geared toward teens.

Crisis helplines like the LA County Suicide Prevention Network (Call or text 988) offer confidential support.

Apps like Headspace, Calm, and Smiling Mind also provide resources for coping with mental health challenges.